We’re all blind when…

29 Jun

We’re all blind when it comes to describing the elephant.

At least we’re a little bit blind…

There’s so much that can’t be seen – it has to be felt.

I’m referring to the Sufi tale of the 6 blind men describing (different parts of the) elephant.

http://equilibregaia.com/2013/05/28/sufi-story-blind-men-elephant/ .  Great site for the full tale and history

http://equilibregaia.com/2013/05/28/sufi-story-blind-men-elephant/ . Great site for the a complete explanation of Rumi’s tale and history

I realize it doesn’t make any difference what we are talking about:  There are those three truths to the story between two people.  There’s that pesky 900 pound gorilla.

And then there are all the different ways to describe the elephant:  pink, dead, and often in the middle of the living room (did you just bump into one now?).

In fact:  there are lots of different ways to describe the same idea, and even the same situation.

Different ‘ways’ are usually defined as ‘wrong’ ways.  Or is that ‘wrong’ ways are euphemism’s for different?  I’m sure it’s something like that.

I’m usually wrong and I hate to be wrong (at least all the time).  My guess is most of us don’t like to be wrong.

Wrong is another way of saying different perspective.  A perspective that is different from ‘others’ – but valid and true.  A perspective based on personal experiences, feelings, and values.  We’ve all got one.  It’s a good thing.  It makes us human.  As long as we don’t let that 900 pound gorilla sit on it and crush it out of us.

If crushing perspectives doesn’t work, can they be changed?  Sure…  But it seems more important to appreciate and respect someone’s different viewpoint and the experiences that created it.  Listen.  Reserve Judgement.  I guess it’s how we develop empathy.

Empathy is a bridge:  it turns each part of the elephant into a whole being.  Empathy allows us to love all 900 pounds of that gorilla.

Or for a different perspective

When it comes to describing the elephant we’re all  a little blind,

so:

Go ahead, keep your eyes closed and feel.

 I bet you’ll be amazed at what you will see.

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